Life is strange.
I wanted to begin this blog with that sentence because I think strange sums it’s up perfectly. Life can be amazing, you could have so much happiness and everything you’ve ever dreamt of and in a heartbeat life is tragic again. Every second two people die, every second four people are born. For every two marriages one ends in divorce. That is alot of ying and a lot of yang so what does it make life, good or bad? Amazing or horrific? I think it’s both and the only way I can describe it is strange. Good strange, bad strange it doesn’t matter it’s just strange.
My Nan used to sing to me the song Que Sera Sera and as a child I enjoyed it but I didn’t understand it until now. Simply the song is about a young child asking her mother what’s going to happen to her life, will she be happy, sad, pretty, ugly, married, single, rich or poor. The girl much like all of us just wants the answer to how her life will be. Her mum can’t give her any answers because quite frankly there aren’t any. Que Sera Sera means ‘whatever may be, will be’ and it’s simple but true. We do not know what will happen tomorrow and I think we waste a lot of time believing in the tomorrow we have planned. You can’t know how life will go and you can’t predict it. We as human beings like to know what’s ahead so that we can deal with what is coming but this is a world where that is impossible. You can think and feel something with all your heart but that doesn’t mean it will happen. You can prepare for the next twist and turn but can you ever really be prepared for death, loss, betrayal or your world shattering?
I believe in fate and destiny, but I also believe that what we do and what we say can alter it. One decision can change your direction in life forever but ultimately whatever happens whatever is coming it will still come. One of my favourite Harry Potter quotes is actually when Hagrid says ‘what’s coming is coming and we’ll meet it when it does’.
I think instead of looking for the answers and trying to prepare for the next storm, all we can really do is build ourselves to be strong enough to survive life’s unexpected storms and alterations. I think we need to know how to bend rather than break. We need to know that life is strange and it follows no rule book, it lives by no moral compass and it doesn’t listen to anyone’s pleas. The trick is accepting it and meeting all of those head on with strength and peace and acceptance, not with hatred or bitterness or bargaining. Because however we react and however we choose to face it, it won’t change, because life is strange and Que Sera Sera.
So how do we build ourselves up to be that strong and resilient? For me right now it’s holding loved ones close whilst I can, it’s writing and reading, it’s exercising and having a routine. Its finding laughter in every day and being silly. It’s trying to meditate and look inside myself for acceptance of the answers that just are not out there. It’s sleeping enough and filling my body with things that are good for it. It is forgiving myself for the times I forget to follow what I preach. Will all these things be enough to hold me still whilst the wind roars around me, I don’t know. But I feel strong and I feel capable and right now that is enough.
And in the end, life is strange, Que Sera Sera.